How do I (30'sF) put a stop to unwanted advances from classmate (30'sM) who I've said "no" to multiple times?
For context, I've gone back to school to pursue another degree through night classes. The field I'm pursuing is mostly male dominated and I'm the only girl in my class. Classes are small with 16 or less students so we work on activities and labs together in class. The classmate I am having issues with is in all my classes.
Week 1
Classmate asks normal questions but then suddenly asks about whether I smoke? Which I answer "no" but then he goes on to ask if I drink, do drugs,go clubs, mention strips clubs? I end the conversation there.
Week 2
During a class lab, I stepped back to let my instructor go through and accidentally bumped into a classmate. I say sorry and he responds with something which surprises me so I ask him again. He says "do you want to cuddle?" and I immediately say "No" and keep myself as far away as possible. He goes on to say it again a couple of times and I tell him stop.
Week 5
He approaches me again and asks why I don't smoke, drink, go to strip clubs, mention strips clubs, asks for my number, jokes about cuddling, if I've had sex, mentions porn and what type of guys I like. I clearly tell him that I do not want this conversation and clearly tell him I have no interest in him. I also tell him any further comments will led to me ending all communication.
Yesterday
He enters class, and sits in the seat next to me. He asks how I am. I give him non-friendly and short reply "good". He then asks for my for number. I say "no". He asks "why?". I say "my choice". He continues asking. I look at him and say "no means no" and "I mean it". He does not speak with me for the rest of the class and anytime he comes near I make it a point to step away.
My concern
Some my classmates have said he still doesn't get it. They have approached him about stopping this behavior. At this point I'm not sure what other things I can do. My main goal is to graduate this semester and make through the next few months. This person creeps me out as he even mentioned there is x number days I can see him until semester ends.
TDLR
Classmate is making advances that are getting very creepy during class and break times. I've told him no but he stops briefly and it starts over. I have 11 more weeks of classes until graduation. Other classmates have noticed and are helping me. However, they can't always be there so what else can I do to get this person to back off?
Submitted September 27, 2018 at 04:43AM by EffectiveFail https://ift.tt/2xItVo7


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