My husband and I are together for 12 years. We got married when I was 26 and have two children. I dropped out of university to support my husband in moving to another country for his new job. Not long after that I got pregnant with twins and I ended up giving up on my personal dreams. Marriage hasn’t always been perfect, but we’ve done our best to work on it - at least, that is what I have always believed.
Two years ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin’s and we (he especially) were put in hell. I was his primary caretaker and took a job to help support us financially. For 1.5 year I cleaned during the night in a casino in our town and I hardly slept during that time. I never complained to him about anything, as he was already going through enough. I could not compare my suffering to his and I did not want him to think I was being a victim. The doctor told him he was in complete remission at the start July and we could not have been happier. My husband started working from home and asked if I could continue my cleaning job until we restored our saving account. He encouraged me to work more hours, so I did.
Fast forward to yesterday. He went to take a shower and left his phone unlocked. I’m definitely not somebody who goes to check on these things, but something was off between us for a while. I saw he had a message from this girl. I scrolled quickly through it and it was more than I needed to confirm it; he was cheating. I saw pictures of her and him saying all sorts of things.
Apparently he is already in contact with her since halfway through May. There are many messages of him complaining about me: that I want to do everything for him and am too generic... whatever that means. This woman slept in my bed when I was working at night. I saw pictures of that. I feel like crying all the time. I feel betrayed, angry, and completely lost. What can I do.. I have twins, I have no real job... I can’t support the three of us, Both of my parents passed away in a car accident in 2015 and I have no extended family.
I still have to talk with him about this, but how?
tldr; husband (m38) is cheating on me (F32) and I have lost it completely
Submitted September 30, 2018 at 03:21PM by throwa2278 https://ift.tt/2OnrT6p
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