I (27) am currently "mediating" a divorce between my parents. Mom doesn't want the divorce after Dad moved out 6 months ago. Dad threatening to get a lawyer that'll do the divorce but set them both back a lot of money. How do I convince Mom to get this divorce (or what do I say to her in general).

The state I'm in is a "no fault" state. Mom is upset about adultery on Dad's side and has some "ideas" about getting more than 50% in the divorce because that is "fair." Mom probably would score high in neuroticism in a big 5 questionnaire. Dad probably the opposite. Dad's reasoning for getting divorce now (and not waiting more) is to "get his life in order." Mom is in therapy to become less depressed. Mom often gets pretty angry at him. I don't know what he does to her.

What do I say to them (probably Mom)? (To get this divorce flowing, not-flowing or whatever)

Thanks

TLDR: I need help talking to parents who are going through divorce, but Mom is refusing to do divorce papers and continues to harass Dad.

Submitted September 29, 2018 at 06:57AM by throwaway391291 https://ift.tt/2NQvwSL