My (26F) newlywed best friend (26F) is super secretive over her husband’s (?M) identity and it’s ruining our friendship.

So, my best friend of 10+ years had a shotgun wedding during the lockdown. The person she married is someone no one in our friendship group has ever met or heard about, and she was vague when we asked her how long they had known each other. For over two weeks, we tried to get her to show us a picture of him or to get him to join in during our skype hangouts, but she made excuses each time until we gave up.

Another of our friends suggested we have a mini baby shower since it would give us the opportunity to meet her husband and for us to see her new house. It took us a whole month to convince her to agree but she eventually did and invited all of us over. It was fun but when we asked her where her husband was, she made an excuse about how he was busy working in his office and she couldn’t disturb him. We were at her house for about 6 hours and he didn’t come out once to say hello or to even eat.

After the baby shower, most of our friends were speculating if her husband even existed or if he was just really ugly and she was embarrassed to introduce him to us. They started pestering her again, and she got really upset with us and blocked everyone for over a week.

I’m going to be honest; I feel incredibly hurt that she won't even show us so much as a picture of him. It feels like she doesn’t trust us. It’s like she’s starting a whole different chapter in her life and she doesn’t want us apart of it. She didn’t even tell us about her marriage until a month after it had happened.

I don’t want to make her feel pressured, but I would like to tell her that her being so secretive is hurting our friendship. What do I say to her? And should I talk to her privately or with our other friends present?

TL;DR – My best friend had a shotgun wedding during the lockdown and has been very secretive over her husband’s identity even when we visited her home.

Submitted March 01, 2021 at 04:50PM by ThrowRAmysteryman https://ift.tt/3dWSMdF