Whenever my partner and I fight or if he does something that upsets me he always says that its not his fault that I allow myself to be upset by his actions and that I choose how I feel so he shouldn't have to apologise or do anything to make it better because its within me.
I feel like every time I become upset by something it turns into a lecture about why I shouldn't let other people have any impact on how I feel. He does read self-help books and things that promote this mindset of protecting your energy and being in control of how you feel so I know its not coming from a bad place but its so frustrating when I'm telling him something that is upsetting me that he has done or that he has the power to help with and rather than understanding or trying to fix it he just tells me that nothing he does should be able to impact on my happiness.
Am I being crazy for this? I've voiced that I don't like when he just brushes me off by saying these things but he is always just telling me its for my own best interests and that I'm being ridiculous. What do you guys think?
tldr When i get upset about something my partner has done, he tells me that I can choose how I feel so i should just choose to be happy. Am i crazy for hating this and wanting him to be accountable for his actions?
Submitted May 04, 2019 at 04:24PM by AppropriateSock http://bit.ly/2H1RoVj
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