I get upset whenever my boyfriend tells me he finally understands something I’ve been explaining to him about for months — told to him by someone more credible.

Hi people of Reddit,

I just feel lost and need advice.

Some background: I’ve(20F) been dating my boyfriend (M24) for about 7 months now but we’ve been talking (known each other) for about 1 year and 6 months. My boyfriend had recently gotten out of a toxic relationship when he first met me — his ex gf cheated on him.

He’s been through a lot, had a bad childhood as he grew up in a toxic household. But through it all, I swear, he’s a good guy that happens to come across shitty people who uses him. he’s attended therapy all his life.

Today was his second phone therapy with his usual therapist since this pandemic started. After he was done, he came to me and said that I probably have said something along the same lines and for me not to get upset but his therapist told him that the reason why his ex girlfriend cheated on him is not because of him but because it was a reflection of herself.

I.. tried to keep my composure but to be very honest, I was sad.. for months I have always told him this .. that it wasn’t his fault his ex cheated on him but because it was a reflection of herself. To hear him say that he understood it from someone else after one time they said — just hurt a lot. I mean as couples, I feel like you’re supposed to understand each other best, no?

I’m not sure if I’m overreacting so please tell me if I’m being overly dramatic.. it’s not the first time this has happened and that’s why it hurts more since it feels like I’m not viewed as a credible person in his eyes.

His reasoning as to why he didn’t understand me all those times I’ve said it is because it wasn’t the time for him to hear/understand it.

TLDR: I am upset because it feels like my boyfriend doesn’t listen to me when I am offering him words of wisdom but when someone else says it, he takes it as if they are a pot of gold..

Submitted March 27, 2021 at 03:04PM by nothisispa https://ift.tt/3w4Mkbk