Dating while in debt

So im currently in debt and single.(25M)

I got into debt bc me and a "good" friend of mine wanted to start a company together. He made a business plan to show to the bank so we would be eligible to apply for business loans/bankaccounts and all that shit. The company was on both our names so when if we ever went bankrupt or anything it would be shoved on both of our plates. The business went great for 2 years we expanded got some extra employees including a "professional" accountent. Since I ran the production side of things I didn't really care about the financial part of things that was not my expertise. Suddenly he had to go to a business meeting on a different continent to work out something with some suppliers. Which I found odd bc we always did that together. It was 2 weeks later that I found out he took a huge business loan signed all the paperwork under my name removed himself from the business leaving everything in my name and just moved away never to be seen again. I had to dissolve the company fire everyone there and sell everything we owned. But that was not enough to cover the loan or the expenses we had to pay for. So since his name was removed from the company&all important documents they transferred the debt over to me. (For anyone asking how he could do that without my signature. He forged my signature and made a copy's of my ID). I'm in a program that helps me with my debts. I have to pay as much as I can in 4 years and if the government decides that I have done as much as I could in those years they will pay the rest of my debt. I am already halfway there.

I have been single for 4 years now and would like to get a relationship so we can share the beautifull moments of live together. But every time I share my story with a girl they will ghost me after the date. I will always tell them that It's my debt & I don't expect them to help me financially. I got myself in this and will get myself out of it. I'm don't tell them on the first date, I usually try and tell them on the third or fourth date. I always tell it face to face since its easier to explain/answer questions about it. And usually the response I get are positive/heartwarming but then when I ask them on another date they always refuse or they have already blocked me. It's like I'm only valued for what I can financially provide to the relationship not for the person who I actually am.

Is it just that I've met the wrong girls or do you all feel the same way about dating someone with debt?

Sorry for the bad English it's not my first language.

Tldr:

I keep getting ghosted when I tell about my debts. Are the girls I try and date the problem or do you generally don't date someone who is in debt(even when you don't have to financially support them)

Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:41PM by Sufficient-Can-6961 https://ift.tt/3oFBreB