I’m super conflicted and confused about my 3 year relationship. My boyfriend games 24/7 now. Very long post.

This is my first time ever posting anywhere for advice or help and I apologize if it’s all over the place. I’m a 24F and my boyfriend is 24M. We are going on 3.5 years in a relationship.

We started dating in 2018 I knew video games was his life but back then he made time for me and I understand that it’s the honeymoon phase. I enjoy video games to so it was never really an issue for me at the start. Also I struggle with a lot of trauma and mental health issues so during the first 3 months of our relationship I didn’t make it easy for him and he was as supportive as he knew how to be. I worked hard to get myself better and it’s been a constant fight but I wanted my relationship to last. I still go through my phases but they are about a year apart from end to start.

I’d like to give context as to what is happening now. Fast forward to this year. I started a company and we split ownership 50/50. He invested about 17k into the company. He was supportive at first but he also was working a full time job. I get the company profitable enough for him to quit his job (he has been wanting to do this so it was my way of allowing that to happen for him). He quits his job and ends the 5 year relationship with them. Fast forward about a month and a half and I had to take him to the ER, his appendix needed to be removed. Mind you he was only helping out about 15% of the time. Being rest bound for about a week he decides to stop helping completely, me being the supportive gf agreeing and allowing him to take this time to figure himself out and his future career. Fast forward another 2 months. He is gaming now for about 18+ hours a day, started a discord and is apart of a payout server. Fast forward to now, my company is taking a huge hit profit wise because people are struggling financially (cleaning company) and I’m just exhausted, I started a second job to make up for my portion and his portion so we don’t have to worry about bills. The problem is he is totally okay with just sitting at home. I explained to him that it wasn’t fair and not okay and he said he was going to start job searching and working on his resume but it’s been two weeks since that discussion and nothing. I’m exhausted I’m tired and I’m falling out of love very quickly. We don’t have sex and when I try to initiate I always get rejected. I caught him doing some things that crossed a boundary that I set when we first started dating and yet that was my fault. I had severe very severe trust issues and I worked on it so hard because I wanted to be healthy and not so toxic and he broke the trust that took me literally 2 years to get to a spot where I wasn’t worried about every single little thing. Now I just don’t care and that’s a very dangerous place for me to be in with who I am as a person in a relationship. It’s very hard for me to come back after someone has hurt me. It’s something I’m working on and I’ve come a far ways but betrayal is a different story.

All of his past girlfriends were taken on dates, received flowers, posts etc. He only did a post in our entire relationship on a year anniversary because it hurt my feelings that I’ve never been posted about. Mind you I was a secret for a long time due to who I was and who he was and what his family would think of me. I grew very very close with his family and we have a cruise in March next year that his parents completely paid for as a family vacation.

He’s neglecting me to the point where I don’t talk to him really and my mental health isn’t doing the best so I’m pulling away even faster. He knows mentally I’m not doing okay and when his friends get off that’s what’s he decides to come talk to me but by that point I’m so done with him he annoys me. He’s tried to make me feel better but I know him and it’s only because I’ve complained about it, I feel like I shouldn’t have to do that.

I’ve been without a dad figure so my relationships with men have never been the healthiest and he is the healthiest relationship I’ve been in.

Now I’m not going to sit here and say I have been the perfect girlfriend but I give it my all. I cook I clean I make sure he’s fed and taken care of. I do all the shopping and errands by myself he has it made. I do little things to make sure he knows I care but for the past 3 months I’ve strayed from doing those things for him because I’m doing all the giving and I get nothing in return.

So my questions are: am I valid? Is there anything I can do to fix this? If not how do I go about ending things? Any advice for me?

TL;DR: Boyfriend spends all of his time on video games and is completely neglecting me. I’m the sole bread winner in relationship and I don’t know what to do and need advice.

Submitted October 26, 2021 at 04:10AM by Temporary_Bedroom_12 https://ift.tt/3mhS66k