TLDR: Broke up with him and moved on.
I posted here over two weeks ago venting about my fiancé and his issues. Pretty sure all of you who commented were in agreement that we were both immature, especially him, and that staying with him would get me nowhere.
We have broken up.
Since I made the post, we had had many conversations about the relationship. I was clearly unhappy, and all he did was make excuses and promises that I knew he wouldn't keep. I decided to do some self reflection and realized why I stayed with him. I wanted to "fix" him to feel better about myself. I wanted to feel better by making him feel better. I also felt I had put a lot of time and effort into the relationship. However, I knew it wouldn't matter because in the end, nothing was going to change.
It went pretty well. He knew that it was coming and was prepared for it. We left on good terms, so I'm pretty happy about that. I wished him well and hoped he would make it through life okay. He said he hoped I would find somebody who treated me well and to live out my dreams.
I felt myself stop being IN love with him. I love him, but more in a caring way. My romantic feelings for him were gone weeks ago and I didn't want to admit it to myself.
Thank you all for kicking me in the ass and telling me to get the fuck out. I need to start caring about myself for a change. The self reflection did a lot to help me and I believe more sessions with my psychologist would be beneficial as well.
Good luck to you all. :)
Submitted October 10, 2021 at 07:40PM by candycornisnasty https://ift.tt/2YAgWFS
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