My [19F] relationship with my parents seem to tumble everytime I try to feel like an independent adult

Recently I started a new job at a club (more of a country dance club than a strip club) after my father saying he's okay with me accepting it, despite the "risks" involved that are "bound to happen" (ex: being harassed).

Well, I went to the interview and I'm working my first day as a waitress tonight. What I didn't know until early this morning (I also work a 7-5 job), is that both my parents are pissed at me for working because they wanted to go hiking today. At almost 20, I want to feel independent. I want to actually branch out and experience all that I can while I learn more about myself. I want them to treat me like an adult and give me a heads up if they need me for something, and not throw a tantrum when I call them out on their shitty behavior.

I know I need to do more around the house for them, I've asked for them to provide me lists of what all they need from me. I haven't received one. I've asked if they need help before I go somewhere and they always reply with "no you're good" or "I can't think of anything" yet when I come back home I'm getting yelled at for not getting anything done. I want to provide for them, but it's hard when they expect me to read their minds at times.

What I'm trying to say is, whenever I feel like I'm accomplishing goals to feel like I'm becoming more of an independent adult, I get fussed at and go back to feeling like a dependent 15 year old. I'm not sure what to do, I want to keep this job at the club and still provide for my family.

TL;DR: Got a new night job, parents are furious despite giving the "ok". Treat me like a burden whenever I feel accomplished about being independent

Submitted October 09, 2021 at 05:53AM by Musical_Ghoul https://ift.tt/3lthPZs