Let me be clear, I’m the stepmom to two kids (4 and 6) in this situation. Custody is 50/50 (week-to-week) and the 6 year old has a tablet that he can text/FaceTime on. When it’s their mother’s week, we don’t talk to them a ton. We might FaceTime them once, or text them maybe twice, but it comes from their dad’s phone. I texted the 6 year old once yesterday because last week, he asked me to remind him when it was his friend’s birthday, so he could tell her happy birthday. So I did. Then I got a text saying “I need you to refrain from texting my kids. Their father can check up on them if he needs to.” She has exploded on the kids crying about how she’s jealous of me and that she feels like they’re replacing her (again, ages 4 and 6). I don’t particularly like her, but she and I have never had negative words with each other, so I don’t know where this is coming from, aside from jealousy alone. We don’t badmouth her to the kids, we don’t ask a million questions about their time with her, nothing. But yet, when they come back, they give off “mommy told us to keep that a secret” vibes. Their dad texted her asking why I’m not allowed to speak to them since I’ve done nothing wrong (good influence; no drugs, drinking, violence, nothing). She says “I’m not speaking to you about this.”
Is she allowed to do this? Should I just never text him when they’re there? I have a feeling that she’s telling him not to talk to me when they’re there and that upsets me, but I don’t want to cross any boundaries.
TL;DR: Kids’ biological mom won’t let me (step mom) text them (for no good reason). What should I do?
Submitted October 07, 2021 at 06:28AM by Possible_Lake_577 https://ift.tt/3AjxQoY
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