I didn’t know where else to turn.. so hopefully I picked the right subreddit. Before I dive into the situation between my boss I want to give some background info.
I am 24, happily engaged, and have a 2 year old son. I met my boss about 4 years ago at my last job, he was my client and we had a great, professional relationship. Fast forward to about 2-3 months ago, my boss had an opening in his office and needed someone to fulfill the position.
At this point I had been a stay at home mom for the last 2 years. My fiancĂ© and I decided an extra paycheck wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world, and since I had such a great relationship with my boss when he was my client, I happily took the position.
At first, it seemed like old times. Both parties being professional while also being able to joke around and talk to one another without weird vibes. But yesterday my boss said something that made my attitude change.
(For context, I work in the construction sales business. Both jobs in this industry I’ve had I’ve worked with all men, so I’m pretty decent at telling the difference between flirting / friendly)
Anyways, back to what my boss said. Prior to yesterday I had a lot of respect for my boss. We’ve had conversations about an old manager at the company that preyed on young girls (he’s not with the company bc his preference extended as far as underage girls and he has since been arrested) and my boss clear as day said “once you reach my age younger women don’t interest you”, and went on to comment on his distaste for older men who date younger women.
When he said this I felt relieved, mainly bc I’ve encountered a lot of older men in this business that creep on me bc I’m the “cute, young office chick”.
Yesterday everything changed though. He told me he did indeed think I was cute, and all those years ago wanted to work me because of that. He went on to say my work ethic is what made him hire me, but he kept making comments on my “cuteness”. He also asked if any of my friends were single / what their ages were. He was especially interested in my 28 year old best friend.
Now today, he comments on the way I’ve dressed, the shoes I’m wearing, and that I look good today because I’m wearing makeup. I haven’t mentioned this makes me uncomfortable bc I don’t know if I’m over thinking these things.
EDITED I didn’t even mention the weirdest part!! Typically, I go into his office so he can sign off on payroll and invoices. I always sit at the chair to the side of his desk, there’s a good distance between us when I sit there. Yesterday, He rolls his chair literally INCHES from me. I mean he was right on top of me and I had to uncomfortably scoot my body as far as I could in my chair and even still we were wayyyyy too close for my comfort.
We don’t have a formal HR, it’s a relatively small company so that really isn’t an option.
How would you feel? Am I being weird about it? Where do I go from here?
Sorry for the long post!
TL;DR : My older boss was respectful at first but now comments on my cuteness / wants to date my friends.
Submitted October 05, 2021 at 07:12AM by kcooley1997 https://ift.tt/3DfxUbe
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