I (27F) am in a new long distance relationship with a guy (31M) that I've been friends with for a year. I have a steady career in an industry I enjoy while he is a chronic job hopper. Now he plans to move in with me.

My (27F) boyfriend (31M) and I have a great time when we travel to see each other (we used to only be friends). We recently decided to take our friendship a bit further and have been dating for two weeks. A few days ago he casually brought up wanting to move to be with me in-person within the next 6 months, but he'll need to live with me because he can't afford to live alone in my expensive metro area ( he didn't even ask me if he could move in with me, he just nonchalantly said it). I expressed to him that I don't like the idea of him living with me but we should talk about it again in a few months. With how crazy his work history is and the fact he is currently living with a friend I have no idea what to expect. I know he will find a job if he moved here, it's just he picks the most passionless basic jobs and I just don't understand it. He had jobs he ended up liking but nothing that got him excited. He's smart, charismatic, and fun to be around, but hasn't shown me he is passionate about anything at all and is super laid back about almost everything. Since I've known him he has had 3 jobs, and he's currently trying to find a new one because he hates the one he's at now (he does make it sound like a nightmare, but he is trying to get the same type of job right across the street from that place). This isn't like an unfortunate covid job thing but it's his whole job history. As his friend I didn't care, but as the guy I'll potentially live with forever it's more worrisome. I'm lost as I feel our values are too different to be together. I also don't like the idea of living together in the beginning of our relationship solely to save money instead of for love and natural relationship progression. I know he is thinking of leaving his family and friends to be with me but I don't want to end up resenting him. My question is, although I like him is it worth it to continue dating him or should I end our very new relationship here and maybe try to go back to being friends?

TL;DR: My friend became my long-distance boyfriend and now he has plans to move in with me but he constantly job hops making me question his reliability and his ability to commit. Should I continue dating him or end our relationship now and hope to go back to being friends?

Submitted September 30, 2021 at 07:15PM by Sweetsiepop https://ift.tt/2YgmLYK