’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 1.5 years and she moved in with me about 3 months ago.
It’s genuinely a good and healthy relationship. Our personalities fit together quite well, are attracted to each other, generally share the same goals and ambitions and we have full support from our families and friends. We rarely argue as things seem to flow naturally.
We’re discussing buying a house together and starting a family in the near future. Most of the times I’m completely into it, she’s a good and honest girl who can party too and will be a great mother in the future. I want that in my future and it’s worth fighting for.
But sometimes I’m just utterly bored. She’s just moved to my city and started her first job as a full time primary school teacher. It’s a lot of change for her and I understand that. She is often tired from work when she gets home and overwhelmed with also keeping on top of her share of the household and her social life. I try to help her through this transition period by doing most of the household chores. Keep in mind I also work full time and we share bills to ratio (I make more so I pay more).
In weekends she often hangs with friends. I understand she wants to keep investing in her friendships. She sees them way less often after moving to my city. But with her being tired and dull ob weekdays, us hanging with our own friends on fridays/saturdays, that just leaves us with ‘lazy sundays’ and I’m sick and bored of those.
I feel like since she moved in with me, I’ve gotten a more boring girlfriend and less exciting moments. Sex has kind of slowed down to 1/2 times per week and it’s less passionate. She hasn’t surprised me with a date in three months. I mostly initiate dates. If she does suggest something, most of the times I will plan it. There’s no major issues but the fire in me is slowly dying. Which is a shame as this is a girl worth fighting for in the long term. I just feel resentment coming up when she is tired all the time while I pay the biggest part of the bills, work just as much hours as she does, put in more work in regards to household and put in more energy in keeping the relationship fresh.
I know bringing this up will crush her. After all there are no big issues and I only feel this way sometimes. Most of the times I’m just in love anyways. Should i talk to her about it or keep sitting on it for a while?
Tl;dr: gf and I have a good relationship but at times I feel bored and like I put in more into the relationship. Should i tell her with chances of ruining the relationship?
Submitted October 07, 2021 at 02:39PM by Giocatore45 https://ift.tt/2YA46aj
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