We’ve been together for 18 months and were out the other evening and after a fun day, we were at her place having some food when she asked me:
If I had to move to Japan, what would we do?
For context - she is Asian and living here on a visa.
My answer was that if we can’t do long distance, we would probably break up. This made her upset and she proceeded not to talk to me all night and I left in the morning. I asked her several times what was wrong, to try and discuss it. But she didn’t want to. And now she says it’s clear that I’m not serious.
I feel this is unfair as she has a job here, so there’s no immediate threat of her having to leave. And I was being honest that I wouldn’t throw everything away I have to move there to be with her. I would have happily discussed this with her and how I feel about the relationship but now we’ve barely spoken for days, apart from a few texts.
It’s a bit of a red flag for me (and sounds like even more so for her) but I feel incredibly sad to think about breaking up. I’m just not sure where to go from here.
Was my answer bad? Does it say more than what I meant?
TL;DR Gf asked if I would move abroad with her. She doesn’t like my answer
Submitted October 06, 2021 at 11:47AM by ThrowRA_livingalone https://ift.tt/3iI2a6K
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