My (22m) girlfriend (22f) of 2 years always prioritises her friends. Now I know, there's nothing wrong with her having friends and hanging out with them, I have my friends too and I love them a lot and enjoy my time with them. My issue is that she has no issue to cancel me to hang out with them anytime they ask her to.
Whenever they tell her to hang out she'll drop everything to go. One time my family had invited her for dinner so we'd meet my brother's new gf and while at first she confirmed she'd come, she cancelled half an hour before the dinner because her friends wanted to go clubbing. The few times I'll happen to hang around them she always makes jokes on my expense.
This makes me feel so shitty because whenever she's around my friends I always make sure she feels comfortable and respected. Her friends always talk to me as if I'm insignificant and sometimes she goes along with their jokes.
I talked to her about that specific part about the jokes and she apologised immediately claiming she didn't realise she was doing this and it will never happen again. And yes indeed she stopped doing that ever since. But whenever I bring up the fact that I feel neglected when she always picks her friends over me she hits me with the "what? Am I not allowed to have friends?" when that's not my point at all. Please don't tell me to dump her and break up, I'm not a believer of every relationship is perfect and if it's less than perfect you should break up. It's a flaw in my relationship just like every relationship has flaws, that's normal. Maybe it's poor communication on my part so, I need to work on talking to her about this without offending her.
Tldr; my gf always prioritises her friends over me and I feel like I always come second in her life.
Submitted October 11, 2021 at 03:26AM by Distinct_Answer8887 https://ift.tt/3Axnqls
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