My husband is becoming a father just as he is losing his mother. We are expecting our first baby and I could go into labour any time now. We recently got the news that my husbands mother is dying. My husband is not okay and he is struggling. He cries a lot and talks about his feelings which is good, as opposed to shutting me and others out. Still, he is in full crisis mode and he is grieving.
This is taking a toll on our happiness as expecting parents and the joy of welcoming our first baby. I feel lonely and I can’t really share my baby related happiness, expectations and worries with him because it just reminds him that his mother won’t be a part of our daughters life and vice versa.
I just don’t know if he/we will get through this. My therapist told me to keep being happy about the baby and keep supporting my husband by being there for him. But it breaks my heart to hear him cry and it’s just so exhausting to support him and stay in this grieving mode when I’m very hormonal myself and all I want is for us to enjoy this time that should be about joy. I never saw this coming.
My husband wants to spend all his time with his mother and I get that. At the same time I’m scared he won’t join me during the birth, and that he won’t be able to enjoy our time as a new family.
Do any of you have any kind of experience with this or any advice? I just feel so alone and scared
TL;DR: Any advice on how to deal with becoming first time parents as husband loses his mother?
Submitted February 23, 2020 at 02:12PM by panels1234 https://ift.tt/37UD4Jv
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