Hi all,
I've gone on a couple (7+) of dates with this girl. Our dates are amazing and we have great chemistry. We are not official but have talked about exclusivity. During our first date, I paid for everything (movie and dinner) and told her that since I initiated the date, I'll pay. However, I found myself initiating most, if not all, of the dates. She's very shy and introverted, and has no prior dating experience, but I thought she would initiate as time goes by. She never did (though she would drop hints and tell me which days she was free), and I found myself usually paying. For example, we planned to watch a movie during the premiere, so she suggested buying the tickets in advance. I said ok, and bought them. I let her know and she just said thanks and didn't offer to pay me back. There was only one time she paid- I left my wallet but I venmoed her back when I got home.
We're both uni students. I have money saved up from working part time, but we both don't have jobs at the moment. She has never had a job before, but plans to get one over the summer. I'm not sure if I should just be more understanding of her financial situation and keep footing the bill, since I genuinely do like her and am willing to see where it goes.
We're not official too, so I'm more hesitant to talk about this. The thing is, I don't mind paying/initiating for most of our dates, as long as she offers to split on some occasions. So my question is, should I bring it up? How do I even bring it up? In my past relationships, we wouldn't split the bill, but they would pay for one date and I would pay on the next. I guess I'm used to that dynamic so I'm unsure how to handle this situation.
tl;dr: Girl I've been seeing does not initiate dates and doesn't offer to split the bill and I don't know if I should bring it up/how i should bring it up
Submitted February 26, 2020 at 03:31PM by fuzzypbow https://ift.tt/2PvPUHJ
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