It sounds weird to me, but maybe its an adult thing I don't understand. I spend the weekend with him and we usually call once or twice a day to talk about our day and say goodnight during the week, maybe 30 minutes total. He's always said he hated texting and I liked it but I stopped texting him altogether so we never text now and I can understand why he doesn't like it so no big deal.
Recently he blew up and said he has too much on his plate and wants to just go home and relax and not worry about calling me. He wants me to move in because he says he wants me in person. I don't move in because I feel it's not the right time, we've been together almost 2 years but I think i'm too young for such a big decision to move in with a boyfriend and I haven't even finished college. He usually just goes home and plays video games or watches tv and doesn't want to be interrupted, I suggested maybe he doesn't have time or space for a relationship and he blew up again saying he loves me and that's not true he just doesn't wanna talk to me during the week because it's either i'm "with him" or "not".
He says i can't be clingy during the week because he gets frustrated he can't do anything about it. I feel like he wants a relationship when he wants it and doesn't wanna deal with being in one during the week after work. He says he loves me and he just wants me to be around him everyday after work but it just doesn't seem right.
I brought up how a co-worker told me he likes to live life day by day and explore as much as possible (he's like 30) and I told my boyfriend that I really liked that and I want to do that and explore life more, I made it clear I wanted to do it with him and explore new places together slowly since hes pretty antisocial and antipeople. Today out of nowhere he has an attitude and calls me and is being rude so I say whats wrong and he said hes "sick and tired of (me) talking about things (my) co worker says" which is all about cool places to try. I honestly just brought it up 2 times for ideas of what to do on the weekend. Then he said "i don't know that's not it, I don't know what it is but I don't wanna talk on the phone" He screamed that I called maybe 3 more times and all I got was "I DONT WANT TO TALK ON THE PHONE" so i asked if he wanted me to come over and he said "i don't care" and hung up so I drove 30 minutes to his house and said what is it he wanted to talk about and he said he was going to sleep and proceeded to sleep so I went home. Havent heard from him.
Am I just too immature to understand the space he needs or in living life? Did I say something wrong? I understand personal space but all week seems drastic, as well as how he's acting. I can't tell who's in the wrong here.
TL;DR my boyfriend wants a lot of space during the week because he has "a lot on his plate" and is acting a bit off
Submitted February 24, 2020 at 08:51PM by bayoukill https://ift.tt/3a0WQEA
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