My husband (28m) has became resentful of me (27F) and my new partner (28F) after opening up our relationship. I am confused and hurt.

For all intents and purposes, Me and my husband have been together for about 7 years.

Sometime last year he brought up the idea of opening up our relationship after getting heavy into the "free love" movement. At first, I was scared about the thought of losing him, almost to the point of nausea, but he said if we didn't open up the relationship, he would leave because monogamy wasn't what he wanted anymore. I decided I'd open up the relationship if I could get to have another partner myself. Surprisingly he agreed, and we opened up.

At the beginning, he found partners but they would fizzle up when it came time to have threesomes, leaving me feeling dejected and upset. I confronted him about it, and he said that he hadn't brought me up while getting to know them, i.e, pretending to be single. I told him that my next partner would be into BOTH of us, and would know of our relationship. He was upset but agreed, so I went out and found Ty.

Ty is great. She, unlike the rest of his partners, included me, almost all the time... to everything. All three of us would go out and do things, go to concerts, out eating, drinking. You know it. He of course had the same access to her, but it seemed to make him jealous with how close we were getting. He would crack jokes about it, like everytime I was out late I was with her or something, just off the wall jealousy. She assured him that she liked both of us, and would love to prove it.

So, a couple of days ago, we had a threesome.

It was beautiful. Ty and I connected on levels I didn't really think were possible, but my husband has completely pulled away from our relationship. After Ty left the next morning, he didn't say a word to me for an entire day. I pressed him on what his problem was, and he said that the experience wasn't enjoyable for him.

I kind of looked at him blankly cause I'm 100% sure he finished, and then he told me that the whole time it was like he was looking at lesbian porn. Ty barely interacted with him seperately, and I'm guessing that has him angry? The entire time was all of us experiencing pleasure at the same time and he's MAD about that? Can someone fill me in on what I'm supposed to do about this now? I don't want to lose Ty as a partner, and I don't want to lose my husband either. His mood swings about this have kind of driven me up the wall, but I still care for him.

TL;DR: i get a unicorn that includes me in me and my husbands open relationship, I feel included and happy, my husband feels dejected and used. I am confused and asking reddit for clarity.

Submitted February 27, 2020 at 07:00PM by anightgonewrongthrow https://ift.tt/32yjEJm