My boyfriend of 3 years has always been a charismatic person and a great story teller. He’s always been a bit louder than I’m used to..but lately I feel like it’s more intense. He CAN be aggressive, assertive and does have a short temper. HOWEVER - what I’m talking about has nothing to do with actual anger. I’m noticing more and more that sometimes, just during normal conversations, he speaks SO LOUDLY that I almost involuntarily find myself cringing and leaning away because it’s so loud.
Basically, you’d think he’s screaming at me...but we are just talking about a movie we saw and I’m 1 foot away. If he’s talking about something he’s passionate about or has a strong opinion on, it gets incredibly worse, almost intolerable to me.
I have tried jokingly on occassion to let him know he’s being really loud...”haha! You know I can hear you from all the way over here!” On occasion he’s apologetic and immediately tones it down back to a normal speaking voice. Sometimes though, he gets really offended and says its just how he speaks and that my hearing must be too sensitive.
I thought maybe he was right..but the other day I mentioned the issue to my mom and she immediately said “oh my gosh yes!! I didn’t want to say anything to offend you....he is so fun to talk to but sometimes he can be so loud it’s like he’s screaming! Why does he do that?”
What’s a way to deal with this? I love him, but just don’t know how to deal with this!
Tl;dr How do I deal with a really loud boyfriend?
Submitted February 22, 2020 at 02:46AM by jxskakckdk https://ift.tt/38PY8ST
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