I (28f) am ready to call it quits with my fiancé (29m), who I’ve been with for 8 years. We have six months on our lease, how do I break the news to him that I’m ready to move on?

I had pelvic surgery to remove several masses on Thursday. He had a cold for a few days before the surgery and it was under control.

I flew my mom and sister in to take care of me during recovery. Last time I had even a minor surgery he was not able to help me because he would develop some strange virus or something.

It’s a pattern I can’t ignore. I’ve needed quite a bit of hospitalization but I’ve kept a lot of that to myself and I don’t need help with most procedures. This one and the last one were more invasive and I really needed him. And every time I need him, he’s suddenly sicker than me so I end up needing to help him more

Yet every time I’m unwell, he becomes even more unwell. Sometimes he will have a fever, other times, like now, he does not. The hospital said he has a flu so his parents are coming to get him and put him up in a hotel so I can recover and not focus on caring for him.

I promise this is not the only red flag pattern. I’m ready to leave him even though the thought alone makes me feel so hurt because I would do anything for him.. but there’s so much that is not being reciprocated even when I ask directly.

How do I tell him I’m done? We have 6 months on the lease and we can’t afford to break it because he doesn’t have a steady income atm.

Tldr: my fiancé gets severely sick any time I have a medical procedure done. Every time, I promise I am not exaggerating. My family is helping him with his flu and his parents will be coming to get him tomorrow so I can recover from my pelvic surgery. I want to be with someone more reliable but we have 6mo on our lease. How do I approach this?

Thank you

Submitted February 22, 2020 at 03:06AM by dullfiremaiden https://ift.tt/2T4nw0p