I don’t want to make this super long, but I am up , pregnant and peeing every 2 hours so I thought I would post here before advice. Before I begin though, you must know some history on my SIL ( sister in law ).
Am Basically my brother (33M) got married to his wife (33F) in April. My brother has a DUI which I have discussed with the SIL before they got married. It wasn’t a secret it just came up in topic and I admitted I knew about it. Somehow she twisted my words and told my brother I had said horrible things about him. Brother told me before his wedding and when I cried and denied it he said “ She is jealous and is just a jealous person, you work as a xxxxxx and had an early start on life as well as you are younger than her she said this before.”
I was honestly in shock that she would twist my words so much and wasn’t even married to him yet. What would the future bring is all I could think of.
Nonetheless, I still spoke to her and and recently invited her over and went out of my way wobbling across town to get her these gluten free desserts due to her diet. I rarely invite her and I thought to myself I’m grown (27F) and will be having my own family soon and my brother is my family too so I should forge a strong bond with her.
Now fast forward to his Reddit post. So I live in a relatively smaller town and was creeping the city subreddit. Someone commented and I saw this familiar alias name so I clicked it and everything pointed to it being my brother. I creeped his posts and found a post he posted under r/marriage.
To sum up SIL was mad that I did not tell her the sex of my baby directly. My brother was asking if his wife was in the wrong , to which everyone said yes. Apparently she was furious and completely outraged. It’s not like the baby’s gender was a secret, I told my brother and immediate relatives while we were at my moms house visiting. Of course he would then go home and tell his wife .
Anyways I’m so sorry for this long post I’m just conflicted as how to ask more than what to do. I also feel sorry for my brother being with someone who constantly makes him feel bad about things he can’t change.
Talking to him about this isn’t an option, at least not right now . I’m in a fabulous journey/mental space in my life right now and plan for it to stay that way.
I guess what I’m asking is, should I be distancing myself from the SIL? Obviously I’d say hi when greeted and see her at family events. But going out of my way for someone who is jealous of me is quite unsettling.
TL;DR - My brothers wife is jealous of me and makes my brother feel horrible about things he can’t change which makes me want to distance myself from her.
Submitted October 26, 2021 at 03:16AM by Troubledskin1 https://ift.tt/3nMIWP9
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