A few weeks ago I found out my husband has had an affair. He said it went on a month and they didn’t sleep together but came close. They still work together every day but he said her job got dissolved and she will be reassigned and they won’t work together in another month. I found out because my teen daughter saw a text so my kids know.
It has been a very emotional few weeks. He says he feels like we’ve been friends our entire marriage because we’ve barely had sex. He’s right sex has been very hard for me and I found myself not wanting it hardly at all. This has hurt him greatly and I feel awful about it. There are times it has been better than others but is not usually great. Sometimes he gets so upset or can get mean. This has made me even more turned off by it.
For whatever reason thinking I will lose him elicited an almost primal response in me and we’ve had sex like crazy for the past few weeks. It has been effortless and wanted by me. I do love him and want to make our marriage better and he says he wants to stay but the day I found out he said he didn’t want to stop seeing her and I told him to leave. He was going to go but changed his mind suddenly and said he wanted to go to counseling. I agreed and we’ve had a ton of sex for weeks. He said he ended it even though they work together and he’s sorry he hurt me. The problem is he thinks he’s in love with her. He told me she made him feel loved and he still has strong feelings for her. I’m glad he’s talking about it and being honest but I don’t know how I feel when he’s basically saying he loves this person. I don’t know how to work on our marriage with this going in. I don’t know if he’ll ever stop thinking about her and don’t know it’s worth it. I am so angry and hurt I don’t know what to do.
TL;DR! Should I continue to work on my 17 year old marriage when my husband is saying he loves woman he cheated with?
Submitted October 10, 2021 at 06:03PM by slr0031 https://ift.tt/3Du28XT
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