My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me out of no where and it still doesn't feel like the end to me.

Yesterday i (21m) finished work, and then was going straight to my girlfriends (20f), she even had a coffee made for me like she always does, i go into her room and she immediately sat down and said ' i want to breakup '. I have never been so shocked and confused.

She said that she can't balance me, her university work and her own mental health, which is very fair in my opinion but she went on to say things like she feels she can't fulfil my needs and give me the time i want. Just to give some context to this, we started talking over the first lockdown in the UK and naturally it encouraged us to talk all the time, we never really adjusted too much going back to a more normal life. So we text a lot throughout the day and basically only had a couple hours where we weren't in some contact, which i think was a big downfall for her on top of trying to stay on top of her uni work. She does get very stressed and maybe all the pressure from different angles was too much.

My problem is that she had mentioned before over text about how she needs alone time etc and i always respected that when she wanted it, but it was never something we sat down and talked about together in person as a big issue. I sometimes mentioned to her that living together would be nice in the future but it wasn't something i needed, all i wanted out of her, was just her - but she said yesterday when we broke up that she can't envision anything in the future so it was unfair on me to wait around for her. I said i don't need all these things, i was happy with how things were and tried to reassure her that i don't need to be talking to her all the time, also that I was finding it hard to talk all the time recently anyway.

It's all very confusing because we just had spent a lot of money on each others birthdays, went away for a staycation, i thought everything was okay besides her being stressed from uni work.

It feels like to me there was so much more we could've done and that the breakup wasn't necessary, if we had just talked about things more. I'm having a hard time accepting that this is just it, i feel like i could've done so much more.

Do you think this is just a case of give her some time and she may rethink or is that a bad mindset for me to have?

TL;DR! Confused about out of blue breakup, feel like this can't be it and don't know what to do moving forward.

Submitted October 22, 2021 at 05:15AM by Crazied https://ift.tt/3ncRDSo