My girlfriend (20F) is ashamed about my (21M) part-time retail job. Is there anything that can be done to change her attitude?

Me and her have been dating for just under 3 years now. I'm a recent university graduate with a pretty good degree, whilst she is still studying for hers. For the past few years whilst I've been in education, I've worked weekends in a department store to gain a little bit of extra cash. Trust me, it's definitely not something I want to do as a career but I enjoy it and I've got many friends there. My girlfriend, however, cannot stand the fact that I work as a retail assistant, and somewhat looks down on me for working as one. In her eyes, when I'm at work, I'm an 'embarrassment' and 'unattractive', despite me actively applying for graduate/ jobs within my degree field.

For the first year or so, she made no comments about my work, but after about a year she started encouraging me to quit and live off my parents. When I refused and explained that I didn't want to rely on my parents for money, she quickly began to detest it all. I often explain to her that I work to both to earn money and give me something to put on a CV. But all she says is 'You'll never get a job in your field with a retail assistant position on your CV'.

I've tried talking to her about it, telling her how it all makes me feel, but I'm often met with unsympathetic comments such as 'get another job then' or 'you can't be getting angry at me for pushing you'. In the very few times she's actually attempted to be sympathetic, she's claimed that her high school made her that way (she attended a very prestigious, selective grammar school), but I still don't accept that as an excuse. Pretty much every time we have an argument, it's about me going to work or me going to hang out with my work friends who she claims are all uneducated and lazy (despite most of them being at university). Also, she claims she's told non of her friends about my position, and that she's created some kind of cover story as to where I am on weekends (she lives in another town a bit of a distance away, so none of her friends will find out).

It's really been getting me down lately, and I've felt at times about ending the relationship. But I want to try and change her attitude and for her to respect what I do. Obviously, I won't be in the role too much longer, but respect towards people is an important factor I consider in a relationship. So is there anything that can be done to change her attitude? Or does anyone have any general advice.

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Hope this post is alright, as I don't normally post on Reddit. Thanks guys!

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TLDR: Girlfriend is embarrassed about my retail job and constantly puts me down about it. I am a recent university graduate so I've kept the job whilst seeking employment in my degree field to make sure I have a bit of money coming in. Whenever I talk about work she won't listen or make a rude remark/ start an argument. She takes an active dislike to my work friends for no reason at all, claiming they're uneducated and have no future. She uses the excuse 'The attitudes of my grammar school made me this way' when confronted about it. Is there anything that can be done to change her view and for her to respect me?

Submitted October 08, 2021 at 03:17AM by Careless-Two9129 https://ift.tt/3DoCGmA