My boyfriend said that I treat him like a cockroach and I'm devastated. What can I do to correct this situation?

I (28f) have dated this guy (35m) for almost 6 years but he recently told me that I have treated him like a cockroach and I do not know how to react/respond to that, I have kept to myself since. The events leading upto to this complaint from him is as follows -

1. Was making him crepes one morning for breakfast, he smeared fresh batter over cooked crepes. He was trying to help, but when food does not turn out tasty, he cribs to me that I'm a bad cook. So when he mixed up the ladles and smeared batter, I raised my voice and asked him to let me finish making crepes. He did not enter the kitchen to help me actually, he was in a hurry to get out and he wanted to be done with breakfast. Until now, he rarely helps me in kitchen when I cook. Only the previous day to this incident, he told his friend that I'm a bad cook and his friend asked me why I don't feed decent food to my bf. My bf did not even take my side, he smirked at me. He fails to see how I'm always making him trail mix, vegan cakes etc so he can enjoy the food he used to before turning vegan. He's apparently been eating meat and eggs without telling me and I do not know how to ask him if this is true. (his friend casually mentioned this to me and asked me to forget about it). He guilts me when I use faux leather bag but he's being a hypocrite himself!

   1. He insulted me in front of his friends that my career is headed for a doom as nobody cares about science and research esp after covid, and that I will end up jobless after my graduation. He told his friends that I'm doing "something useless in lab" and I did not retort, I kept my calm. His friends did not take sides, they just sat there and nodded and I excused myself from the gathering shortly after, for a brief time. I did not talk about this again to my bf.

I feel like I'm constantly disappointing him, even when I don't get angry. What am I doing wrong here? I knew that the crepe incident was a bit too much, I was rude, but to have to be criticized constantly over minor things exhausts me.

I am having a hard time to understand what he wants. How can I make this relationship any better ?

TLDR - My bf and I fought over cooking crepes as I asked him not spoil things in a hurry. He criticizes me when I cook home food. I was trying to make him a decent breakfast, he smeared the wet batter over cooked crepes and I told him to wait in the living room until I was done cooking. He humiliated me in front of his friends that I am a bad cook, didn't tell me directly. He said I treat him like a cockroach. Been with him for over 5.5 years now, been his emotional support through his failures and what not, he doesn't trust me one bit and I'm exhausted. Also, he's faking that he is vegan although he has eaten meat and eggs . I did not know this until his friend casually blurted this.

What wrong am I doing here and how should I respond to this ? Should I ask him why he lies to me about his food habits (going vegan was his own choice, nobody forced him) ?

Submitted October 25, 2021 at 02:00AM by whitewine993 https://ift.tt/3vHsB1A