My boyfriend is the sweetest person ever.. until he drinks, he turns into a verbally and me tally abusive nightmare of poor anger management and idk how to deal with it anymore

Basically what the description says, we haven’t been a couple for too long (3/4 months) but both live abroad and hence live together already to share costs and both safe some money.

Usually everything goes well, we enjoy each other’s company, make each other laugh, he’s very affectionate and caring. But sometimes when he drinks so much he’s wasted, which happens more often than I’d like it to, it’s like he turns a switch and becomes another person. He starts getting super annoyed with me for literally nothing and will call me names and come up with other ways of mentally hurting me as much as he possibly could - examples: telling me he’s gonna go fuck another girl and then just leaving our apartment and staying out for the night or telling me (someone who’s always struggled with ed’s and body dysmorphia, he knows about it) I’m ‘a 4’ and he could do so much better.

I know he doesn’t mean any of the shit that comes out of his mouth when he’s drunk and usually just ignore it (toxic af I know but trust me he’s so different when he’s not drunk) but it’s gotten to a point where it’s really hurting me. I’ve told him and he’s been doing better for a couple of weeks but rn I’m sitting at home waiting for him for the past 3 hours when he originally wanted to be back from his friends place. I usually wouldn’t mind but he’s already been drunk before and told me he’s gonna fuck some other girl after getting mad at me over some stupid bullshit. He said he obviously didn’t mean it an hour after getting mad and will be back 2 hours later when he left for his friends house. That was 5 hours ago. He’s not replying to texts, has turned of his last seen status on WhatsApp and is overall just making me feel like shit right now and I know I deserve better. I know it. I just wish he would stop drinking because he’s the sweetest person when he doesn’t.

From what he told me I think he has some childhood/ teen trauma he never went to therapy for and that’s why I’m taking this bullshit. I know he’s not like this.

How the fuck do I deal with this? Can anyone out there please tell me they have a good outcome for a similar story, please.

TL;DR sweetest boyfriend ever turns into a verbally and mentally abusive monster when he’s drunk, just talk to me please

Submitted October 02, 2021 at 11:29PM by fading_jos https://ift.tt/2Ybj0DF