My boyfriend (18M) is way too delusional and I'm getting tired of it.

I (18F) am in an online long distance relationship with a guy I met on here for a year now. We were discussing on text about couples having guy/girl friends and he seemed to disagree about the fact that it's not wrong to have friends when you're not single.

I made up a hypothetical scenario of me hanging out with a group of my girl friends where two or three more guys join in who are my mutuals and said, "It's not like you'll tell me to leave just because there are guys too, right? Do you think that'd be alright?", hoping he'd answer no. But to my surprise he answered yes.

Things got heated up thereafter. I told him I'm not just gonna leave like that just because he told me to and he replied with, "I'll breakup with you then"

He says it's not a trust issue, he trusts me. It's just his so called "preference" that he wouldn't like me to hangout in a group if there were some guys too. I don't understand the problem. If he happened to be somewhere and told me there were girls too, I'd trust him enough to not do anything. I can't just tell him to leave or threaten to breakup because I don't like girls breathing around my boyfriend right?

Well, he still doesn't seem to understand and calls me "modern" for it. A word people in India like to use to insult girls as if it's a crime to be "modern". But I think it's just common sense. He calls me trashy in anger and I am tired of explaining things to him. He doesn't read all of my messages. He doesn't listen to all of my voice messages when I try to explain things to him. We can't call much because of our Indian parents. We can't let them know we're together. It's honestly just a fucking mess.

We haven't even met yet and this is how he's behaving. Maybe we aren't just doing well together because we aren't doing good in our own lives. I don't know. I just need some opinions and advice on this. Apologies for any typos

tdlr; bf thinks me hanging out in a group which includes guys would be a deal-breaker for him

Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:15AM by throwaway13161316 https://ift.tt/2YojFkY