My (18F) parents (45F, 59M) were demanding I immediately write a cover letter for my mother last night. I don't know what to do.

Hi there. First of all I wanna apologise for the throwaway, but I just didn't feel confident posting about this elsewhere.

But anyway, I'm 18F and have recently (about 2 months ago) moved out of my parent's home to live with my boyfriend (18M). I know some people think this is too young to move out, but I wasn't happy in my previous home and my mental health has improved significantly since I left. And that's not what this post is about anyway.

Since I left home, my parents have been struggling financially as they receive less money from the government since less kids are living in the home (my country provides a child benefit to all parents). Because of this, my mother who has been a stay-at-home-mom for many years, has been once again trying to find a job. I gave her feedback on her CV through text about a week ago, and a couple of days ago she asked me to look over her cover letter. She and my dad are immigrants and don't speak English fluently which is why they were asking for my help.

I was busy with college when she asked me to look over her cover letter, and I told her maybe I can do it the day after. Unfortunately I think I was busy again and I honestly just forgot about it. I thought she would initiate it again but maybe she was expecting me to. I texted with her a few times during this time when she told me she is in bad shape, and when I asked her what was wrong she told me she didn't have time to discuss it now. So I said okay, maybe we can later.

So today it's probably been about 3, or max 4 days since she first asked me to look over her cover letter, and last night, when I was already in a rush and about to go shower, I got a random text from my dad saying something like this: "[My Name], please, write a cover letter for your mom now!!! It's only a few minutes for you and it will save your mom's life!! PLEASE!!!"

This made me panic and I didn't know what the hell to do. I had plans with my boyfriend later that night and the schedule for it was very tight as I had to go to sleep early because I had college the next day. "Save your mom's life" worried me. I was scared and I called my boyfriend who was out running some errands. While I was on this call, my dad sent me another message, through another app, saying: "Read my fucking message on whatsapp, please!!! [heart emoji]". This made me feel even more confused, pressured and anxious, and I was crying a little at this stage. I was too afraid to say no to them, because when I lived with them, usually if I said no to helping them with some English thing they would be pissed at me, so I couldn't do it. I didn't want to ignore them either because then it would always be in the back of my mind, but my boyfriend convinced me to just go shower.

While I was in there, I didn't hear but, they both tried to call me on whatsapp. Then my mom tried to call me on my phone. I was overwhelmed and I had a very bad headache and I didn't know what to do. Writing a cover letter isn't just a few minutes necessarily, I would have had to read my mom's CV, research the workplace and then actually do the writing part. Even if it was a short time, I couldn't pause to get it done because I was on a time schedule, and I had a very sore head.

I was undecided about what to do until my mom sent me a message saying that she tried to call me, and that she hopes I am well and that I have a good night and things like that. She said she is going to sleep and sent some heart emojis. So I was like thank god, I can relax now, and fortunately the plans with my boyfriend worked out.

I didn't go to college today because I had a breakdown, so I guess it's a mental health day for me. But that's part of why I didn't text my parents yet, and also, because I'm scared. I will have to explain myself for yesterday probably. My mom sent me one more text today but it was deleted so I don't even know what it was, I just know she was probably upset or pissed.

About a month back I did create my boyfriend's CV and cover letter as he struggles with written language (seems dyslexic in my opinion) and I am pretty decent at writing, and you know, he actually paid me. He did dishes for like 5 days in a row and bought me a pricey gift. He was the sweetest ever about it and I felt appreciated. But the thing is, during this period I did mention to my mom I could help her as well in the future. It's just, I didn't think that would mean I have to be available 24/7 or that I have to initiate it or something. I also don't really like the idea of doing it for free but maybe I'm wrong about that since she is my mom.

Anyway, I'm confused and I feel kind of guilty. And I don't know how to proceed. I have to see them for my younger sister's birthday on Saturday this week and that makes all of this even worse. What the hell should I do?

TL;DR: I don't live with my parents and my dad texted me last night demanding that I write a cover letter for my mother right that moment and that it would "save her life". I felt panicked and didn't know what to do, so I ignored the text while my parents proceeded to spam me with further calls and texts. Today I still haven't replied and I'm not sure how to move forward.

Submitted October 06, 2021 at 04:09AM by throwaway2021777x https://ift.tt/2YmpNui