Is it unreasonable for me (27F) to want my 2 year LDR with a 29M to be exclusive now that we have finally met in person?

In the Fall of 2019, I met a man online who was living and working in the States. Thanks to Covid and continuously ruined meet-up plans, we did not get to meet or be together in person until very recently. While we were LD and never mets, we mutually agreed that it was okay for us to casually date and hook up with other people so long as our relationship came first. Now that we are finally able to be together in person, I want us to be exclusive, and focus on each other. He told me he has been talking to a couple women here and there and it upset me. We are going to have “the exclusivity talk” and I am wondering if it is unfair or too soon for me to want us to be exclusive as we have only just started hanging out in-person.

However, at the same time, I feel 2 years of talking to each other is MORE THAN ENOUGH to know if you want this relationship or not. I seem to subconsciously undermine our relationship because it was LD and we were nevermets, but I keep trying to remind myself that it is valid just like any other relationship dynamic.

Note that him and I are both mostly monogamous, so a monogamous LTR is what we both discussed we wanted when we first started talking.

TL;DR - long distance nevermet non-monogamish relationship of 2 years, partners finally together in person, male partner shared that he is still talking to other people, female partner wants exclusivity/monogamy. What to do?

Submitted October 10, 2021 at 10:19AM by NebulaKat https://ift.tt/3AvBAUu