I [23M] am getting very angry about perceived laziness in my girlfriend [22F] of 7 years.

So my girlfriend and I have been together forever, years and years. I love her and she loves me, we have a very strong bond and take care of one another.

Lately however I have been becoming more and more frustrated with what I perceive as an extreme physical laziness. She literally cannot see a bed without laying in it. Trying to get her up if she has to go home or she needs to do something is a momentous task. Even when she doesn’t plan to sleep over she’ll end up sleeping in my bed until 2AM and then driving home because she refuses to just get up and drive home before she falls asleep. If I suggest we go for a walk there is a 50/50 chance we actually go but even if we go she will never just say “okay” and get up she’ll lay there until I mention in a few more times.

This is all compounded by the fact that she’s gained quite a bit of weight lately. I’m not a perfect person, I’m not happy that she’s gained weight. I really don’t think I would mind the weight gain as much if it wasn’t accompanied by her being noticeably more lazy. Conversely if she was in great shape I also might not be as annoyed about the laziness. It doesn’t help that I pay for a gym membership for us and she hasn’t gone in months.

I boiled over the other day when we were doing stuff on my computer. I stood over her shoulder while she did what she had to do and the minute I took the chair to do my thing she immediately laid down in my bed. I finished up what I was doing and noticed she was laying on my clothes that I had left on my bed. Just her entire body laying on my clothes including button ups and polos that I wear to work.

The fact that she couldn’t even move my clothes to not crush the collars sent me into a rage. I overreacted and I told her I can’t believe she is that unbelievable lazy that she can’t be bothered to move something off of a bed before laying down on it. Then the fight became about me being a jerk rather than the original issue.

It’s not like I can outright say how much this laziness bothers me without sounding like an asshole. What do I do?

TLDR; Girlfriend getting noticeably lazier and gaining weight, can’t even put in the bare minimum effort in basic actions.

Submitted October 08, 2021 at 07:11AM by throwawaylazee https://ift.tt/2YuaVKR