I am a single mother. There is no help from the biological father. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and he has not really understood the concept of parenting and exhaustion. I worked throughout the pandemic and he did not. I am still working. He works one night a week playing one gig at a bar for 3 hours.
This bar is one mile away from my house. Since I have known him, he has come over after and I have been able to stay awake. However, things have changed. He gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and developed Sleep Apnea. His co-workers all quit so he is the only person playing meaning he comes in at way after midnight. He comes inside in a loud and sometimes drunk manner waking my child.
I feel he only wants to stay here so he doesn't have to drink and drive home (20 miles). I stay up late, he walks in, and he crashes. I told him last night I felt used. This started a huge argument because he had already planned on staying here. He said I shouldn't invite him if I didn't plan on having him (I didn't invite him last night, he assumed). He tried to guilt me by saying that he only wants to come over to spend time with me because he loves me but then said he was going to come in and immediately pass out in my bed. I reminded him we don't spend time together when he comes here because he sleeps in my bed and I have to sleep on the couch due to his sleep apnea.
His sleep apnea is so bad he will not do anything about it and refuses to wear a device because his dad has it and he has seen "how annoying they are". Instead I have to sleep on the couch since he gasps for air in his sleep and snores. I am very concerned.
It is currently 7am and I am up for work. He texted me angry messages until after midnight last night. Should I break up with him? I am concerned both for his health and weight gain (100lbs overweight) and his lifestyle of not working more than 1 day a week. Otherwise, he is kind and caring. I just do not like him on Thursday nights. Help?
tl;dr boyfriend of 2 years lives a very lax and carefree lifestyle. I can no longer be used for a place to crash after his one night a week gig and his health is declining also. He seems to have no direction in life at age 35. Need to know if I should end it.
Submitted October 08, 2021 at 04:25AM by brokenpa https://ift.tt/3iHNsg3
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