Siblings F/30 M/31 don't make an effort to spend time with me F/27 after the death of both my parents

So both my parents passed away and since then neither of my siblings have tried to see me. If I make plans there is a small chance they will be down but they never reach out first. I planned a Christmas dinner and they showed up and right after eating they both left. So, they were over for about an hour. I'm not sure if they made other plans, but I was really counting on them at least hanging around after and make a bit more of an effort rather than eating the food I paid for and prepared and then leaving.

My sister will say I might have plans (as in keeping me as an option D) and then never reach back out to me when I try to make plans and my brother is attached to his girlfriends family to the point where when he is in town to see them he doesn't let us know or give even an hour of his time.

I'm the youngest and I'm feeling pretty by myself since I don't have places to go during holidays that make me feel welcomed and I feel like we all used to have a better relationship and now everyone is only really focused on themselves and their relationships and 'new families' (none of us are married or have kids). I also have a partner, but I make an effort to try and see my own family because I think it's important.

I don't really want to spring my feelings on them because they clearly aren't feeling the same way, so I was just kind of wondering how I can stop caring if our relationship falls out and they aren't really a part of my life anymore at this point.

Td;lr Relationship with siblings is almost non-existent after parents death and I don't know how to let it go.

Submitted July 03, 2021 at 02:40PM by BugNo3102 https://ift.tt/3AqcXtp