Am I doing something wrong?

My SO have been together almost a decade, and currently live in an apartment with a roomate. After coming home from a nice walk, we found our roomate was out to have some drinks with a friend.

Feeling a little randy (and hopeful), I hopped in the shower, and after coming out I surprised my partner half naked with a "boo!" then a kiss on the lips. They replied "what do you want? Your breath stinks..." - an early indicator perhaps they weren't 'in the mood'... also a fair observation and I went to brus my teeth, and gave the approach another shot. They blatantly said "I don't want anything", to which I replied "okay" and went to get dressed. At this point, I'm honestly not randy (or hopeful) anymore anyways - nothing is a bigger turn off than your SO not being turned on!

I came out of the room dressed and went to my computer to answer a few emails, at which point my SO went into our bedroom without saying a word, and after about 10 minutes shouted "are you coming in here?".

I went in, and asked what was up, they seemed a little frustrated by the question... I went and sat beside them, and they said "well, don't you want something?". I said I was just having a little fun earlier, and not to worry about it, and mentioned that they had told me they weren't in the mood - hence me stopping my advances. They responded "well, I'm not in the mood... but I don't know."

I said not to worry about it and mentioned we should just go on with our evening... this seemed to make them a little agitated, but we went to the kitchen to start making dinner. At this time I explained how if they were telling me "no", then to me that means just that - no. "Not in the mood", means not in the mood, an if they just wanted some time to warm up or freshen up, I'd really appreciate it if they told me that instead.

That REALLY pissed them off, and they started yelling at me telling me I don't clean enough, don't take them on enough dates, and I'm boring. After telling me I'm frustrating to be around, they have now locked themselves in their room and I'm eating dinner alone.

TL;DR, my SO said no to sex, so I didn't try. Then they kinda said they'd "give me what I want" a few minutes later and I declined. They got very mad.

This is beginning to become a bit of a pattern...

Am I doing something wrong?

EDIT: they finally came out and are mad I ate without them :/

Submitted July 27, 2021 at 06:01PM by studiogandalf https://ift.tt/3iXIieV