Thank you to everyone who responded. To my previous post https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/mvpwpl/i_need_kid_free_time/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
I spoke to DH briefly this morning about needing some adult time away from the kids to recharge my batteries, he made light of the situation by making jokes which, tbh really annoyed me but I kept my calm. I meant to discuss is last night after the kids went to bed but I was so exhausted I fell asleep whilst getting them to bed too.
Coincidentally my sister text and asked if I wanted to go for a run, I used to love running but stop over a decade ago. She and I have both put on a but of weight during lockdown and have been talking about wanting to get fit again. So I told DH, I'm going running with sis this evening once you finish work, what do you need sorted for the kids before I leave at 6? He was kind of stunned, he asked 'aren't you going to get them to bed first?' I told him no.
As I was leaving, DH asked how long I was going to take, half an hour? And I told him no, ill be at least an hour or two. He made comments about how I was probably just popping round the pub for a chat, he made this comment ay least 4 times whilst I was getting ready to go. We did 3 laps of the park before our other sis called and said she and her fiance were having pizza in the same park and to join them. I'd already eaten but we went over for ten mkns since it was in the same park and I felt a bit guilty that I was sitting there having a chat, but even if I was, that should be OK and I shoildnt feel anxious. I didn't even tell DH, hey I bumped into sis 2 and fiance at the park because I know he'll make stupid comments about it.
Also before my sister and i planned the run, I went and picked up our grocery shopping today, it was click and collect and took 15 mins and I had my toddler in tow. They didn't have 3 of my shopping items. So just before school, I popped to the local shop on the way to pick my eldest up to get those 3 items. I went 10 mins earlier and left the little two at home with dh. He works from home and can help out quite easily. He made a comment about how I was getting some me time with my walk to the shop after having gone out already today. He meant having gone out to pick up my groceries earlier with my toddler. I asked him how is that me time? Both things are for the family, its not for just me.
I feel like he's quite resentful when I do things for myself, or with others. But I encourage him to do the same. I encourage him to see his family, cousins, friends as we're allowed to socialise now, I just say do it safely but he just isn't interested in doing anything other than hanging out with our kids. I'm planning a daytime run with my sis to go further a field but I'm getting annoyed with the comments from DH.
Tldr: I got some me time but also alot of digs about it from DH
Submitted April 23, 2021 at 03:55PM by threeofsevenn https://ift.tt/3gzuZlr
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