My (28) husband and I (26) keep fighting and not having sex. The root of the problem are his health issues and an incident from a few years ago.

My husband has been going through weird stomach issues that no doctor has figured out (he’s currently seeing a new specialist) for the past 8 years or so. One doctor said that perhaps the root is stress but he won’t go see a therapist. This pain in his stomach has resulted in bigger issues - him not being able to exercise, not able to have sex without having super sharp pains, etc. for context, we’ve been together almost 7 years and this has been an issue for 3 years - it has escalated a lot during the past year when his stomach aches have gotten more intense.

A few years ago, I got into a fight with his controlling mom (he’s an only child of a single mother and grew up without a dad). She kept saying things that were inappropriate and meddling in our relationship. My husband was shocked and it’s really where the issues started. Her and I have since not gotten into any fights and I’ve enrolled in therapy literally two weeks later.

For the past year quarantine was overall okay besides the lack of sex but our fights have been really escalating. A lot more name calling, the fights happen over the smallest things and last much longer - this is both of our faults. My husband has also gotten in the habit of refusing to apologize which drives me even madder. He has also picked up gaming in quarantine and has been spending more time drinking (2-3 beers a night). I want to fix our issues and don’t know where to start or how to make it better. I love him and want to be there for him but him not wanting to go to therapy to treat his problems + lack of sex and these explosive fights are making it hard.

Tl;dr husband has been having health issues for years which is resulting in fights and frustrations. I don’t know how to fix the problem and want to fix it desperately.

Submitted April 27, 2021 at 10:55PM by baileyandthetramp https://ift.tt/3eD1rkj