My partner and I both smoke a lot of weed. I’ve been smoking almost daily for 7 years, he’s been smoking daily for 13 years. We both want to quit our habitual use. Right now we’re both still smoking but smoking significantly less (he’s experiencing serious withdrawal). We’ve both had limited success quitting in the past.
We have different reasons for quitting. I want to go back to school and need my wits about me. He wants to reconnect with hobbies that he couldn’t do while stoned. For me, it’s pretty clear I need to stop and if I don’t quit there will be negative consequences. He sometimes changes his mind on quitting. He’ll say he wants to quit but then he will says he doesn’t really have to quit because it doesn’t impact work and he’s never gotten into trouble because of his use.
We smoke every time we hang out together so if he doesn’t quit it will be very difficult for me to quit. We’re only in our first week so I can’t judge too quickly, but I am scared of how this will go. I know I will have to set hard boundaries around it once school starts next fall.
Most of the resources I’ve found regarding relationships and substance use are geared towards one partner helping their partner with substance use issues. I’ve been having a hard time finding resources on both partners supporting each other. If we’re able to pull this off I think it will really improves our health, our life satisfaction, and our relationship.
TL;DR- Have any of you quit using a substance with your partner? How did it go? Do you have any advice on what to do/not to do?
Submitted December 02, 2020 at 11:20AM by ThrowawayRA202011 https://ift.tt/3lyTmyy
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