My [24M] narcissist mom [42F] tried to guilt me into coming to her private Thanksgiving dinner and knowingly exposed me to Covid

My mother has always been a manipulative person and I didn't have a good relationship with her until after I moved out (good is a bit much), it took me until near adulthood to identify much of her behavior as abusive and toxic. After I moved in with my girlfriend and didn't have to see her every day, which improved a lot, but no matter what I try and do to bring attention to how I was hurt she denies all responsibility. Whenever I bring up something she did she responds with textbook gaslighting, assuring me that I'm just remembering things wrong and that what I was telling her about never really happened.

My girlfriend and I are broke and hurting for food at the moment, so when my mom offered to make food for a small Thanksgiving dinner between us and her husband, a prison CO, we didn't pass it up. My girlfriend ended up being sick the day of (unrelated) but otherwise generally didn't seem too enthusiastic to go so I assured her we didn't have to. When I broke the news to my mom, she instantly launched into a tirade about how much food she made, how she's never done this before, and how I had to at least come get some to take home.

The guilt trip didn't sit well with me, and I almost decided to stay home over that alone, but then she informed me that her husband was sick with what appeared to be a cold. Like an absolute fool, I went and ate for a little while so I could do my duty and bring my girlfriend some glazed ham. My mom assured me once again that her husband was just "a little congested" and cleared space for me to sit pretty far away from him just in case. I stayed away for as long as I was there because I was apprehensive, but I was still just in a house with him.

Well, this morning (AFTER I did grocery shopping for the week) she messaged me very seriously informing me that his test results came back positive and that I should get tested as well. When I complained that I wasn't even aware her husband was waiting on results to begin with and that I wouldn't have visited if I had been, she responded by saying that he works in a prison where some guards have come back positive so he's just been getting tested constantly, and that she didn't think he was at risk either.

This struck me as odd and I thought it was an unusually irresponsible decision she made, as she knew there were test results coming back and that what she explained as congested should have been the first indication of symptoms, and needless to say I'm beyond upset. I'm accustomed to my mom making rash and potentially harmful decisions with little regard for me in the past, but this was by far the most egregious, preventable thing that she could have done given current circumstances. I've been tested and am quarantined pending results, but I can't help but feel angry that my mom for the lack of responsibility it took to put me in this situation. I've dreamed of going NC for years, is this an acceptable final straw to make that happen? Am I justifiably upset?

TL;DR: Mom knowing exposed me to Covid after she tried to guilt trip me into visiting for a holiday meal. I'm pissed that she didn't warn me until this morning.

Submitted December 02, 2020 at 04:17PM by EvilRhino229 https://ift.tt/36yJmBi