I used this account to post over a year ago in relation to some bad times I had (pregnant, father of child was on social media sharing explicit content and flirting/sexting other girls). Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/92e3ab/married_for_2_years_found_nsfw_pics_shared_online/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I [28F] left I was free I stayed with a friend for a while and then somehow I don’t remember but most likely guilted because of being pregnant I went back to him [30M]. I struggled through pregnancy because of well pregnancy, but nothing too bad.
Then it got worse, his drinking spiralled, his the fact he was using drugs, slammed breaks on in the car to cut into my stomach, kicked me out of a car at 11pm at night then locked the house up so I was stranded... and I still fvcking went back for the sake of the baby.
The baby came along and he’s just perfect. It was hard to find our groove at the start and the adjustment to life with a child who is dependant on you for literally everything was a shock. Again, the partner was out drinking or arguing with me, he barely helped in the early days I might have got one nappy change a week if I was lucky, and maybe a bath. I’ve been essentially raising our child on my own.
Christmas night just gone I finally had enough, he was drunk hurling abuse at me threatening to destroy the house. You don’t do this - especially in front of yo ur child. I called the police he was arrested. I packed what I could and left. He has not seen his child for over a month as I had to travel interstate. I was thinking of going back so he can spend time with LO but he just messaged me about he’s been hanging out with people that are stabbing people, using ice, wanting to fight people. I said I wasn’t comfortAble to be in that position and the abuse has started again.
I should have left at the start, I should have heeded the red flags at the start of our relationship (oh that was all based on a lie too as he hid drug addiction for 4 years of our relationship which explains why I’m now in so much debt). I should have trusted my gut and not give a fvck about anyone else’s feelings.
If you read this far, thanks? Sorry I rambled a bit as I’m a bit all over the place when I actually think of the situation. Day to day though I’m good, I’m better without him around.
TL;DR if you for some reason doubt your relationship, don’t just sit by and hope for the best. Work out the issues even if it means leaving. Your mental health and safety are more important.
My baby and I are doing great, after trying to be a family unit it didn’t work, I did most of it on my own, the relationship broke down, police were involved.
Submitted February 02, 2020 at 02:01AM by unsureonwhattodoo https://ift.tt/39062bJ
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