Hello, I hope this is the right place to post this - I need advice because I don’t feel very rational right now ... My bf (29M) and I (24F) have been dating for a year and a half, and it’s been absolutely amazing. We get along great, care about one another, truly understand each other, have the same values, our ambitions match, and all the other things you’d want in a healthy loving relationship. We always have a good time, travelling together is a blast, sitting in silence together is lovely, and I can’t thing of anything wrong with us being together.
Where it gets complicated is that we grew up in different countries/different cultures/religions but that has not bothered us this far. His parents however are against him being with someone from a different culture/religion (Hinduism). He told his parents about me and they got excited about my achievements/job but as soon as he mentioned that I’m not Indian/Hindu, they expressed their disappointment and told him the usual spiel of ‘mixed relationships don’t work’ , ‘what would our community say about us’, ‘that’s not how we raised you’ etc etc. They also told him that this “dating thing” is meaningless, “let’s talk when you’re ready to get married”.
My bf is pretty sure that his parents will never fully accept this relationship. They MAY gradually learn to live with it, but part of them will always be disappointed (if not angry), and they are unlikely to be truly happy for him.
I don’t know how to proceed from here. Do we continue as if nothing happened, with the possibility of his parents disapproving of us forever? What if his parents vehemently disapprove once/if this gets to what they consider serious, i.e marriage? Do we continue with this knowing that his parents approval means a lot to him, and even if we do things our way, part of him might resent me for it? Do I break up with him because there is no way this can turn out ok? Do we fight for it and see how it goes? We are both equally confused - we love each other and want to be together, but also don’t want to drag this for years only to be “told” to break up, since that heartbreak is 1000 worse. HELP.
TL;DR interracial relationship, parents disapprove, to stay or to break up?
Submitted February 23, 2020 at 07:51AM by SBKH2020 https://ift.tt/2wGEZEF
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