My(28f) brother and his girlfriend (27 & 24ish) are demanding that I keep my relationship with my new BF (26M) separate from my relationship with my brother.

This might be messy so please bear with me.

My brother (A) has been dating his GF (B) for about 9 months now I think. When they first got together, he was poly and in a relationship with another woman (C). A&C were together for 3 years and when they broke up, it was amicable so they decided to stay friends. They just knew they didn't want to be together anymore. B didn't like A&C still being friends but never expressed this to A. It took several months and breakdowns on B's part for her to sya something to him and she asked him to stop talking to C because she felt like it wasn't healthy for their relationship. Because of the negative feelings she experienced while she was unable to express her needs to A, she blames C and harbors an intense hatred for her.

I recently started dating a new guy (seriously a week), let's call him G. G and C used to date but it was fairly brief and they've been broken up for a while now. I told A&B that I was dating G because I was excited to introduce them to him officially. (They'd all met briefly before I was around but just kind of in passing)

B FREAKED out and said that she thought her and I couldn't have a relationship anymore because I was dating G. This is because he at one point dated C. I honestly was pretty shocked because it's not about G at all, per both B and A, but solely about C. A and I talked about it and he said that basically I couldn't bring G around him and B because it would be "too triggering" and remind them of C too much and all of the bad memories associated with that part of their relationship.

I've already spent the last 6 months walking on eggshells not talking about C or mentioning anything about her. I constantly have to reassure both A&B that I do, in fact, like B and don't compare them to A&C's relationship. Now, I'm being told that if I'm going to date G that I have to do that separately from my relationship with my own brother.

This feels entirely unfair and I've said as much to both of them. Its not G's fault that he is associated With C and I feel like this really not a fair ask to demand that I don't bring him up or spend time around A&B with him. But am I being unreasonable here?

There's honestly more that B has said in the last 48 hours that has really gotten under my skin but this is the meat of it.

Sorry if this is super confusing. My brother uses reddit so I didn't want it to be super easy for him to find this post, haha.

Tl;Dr - My brothers's GF has already cut his friend out of his life, and now it feels like she's trying to cut me out because of the guy that I'm dating that she knows 0 things about.

Submitted February 20, 2020 at 04:53PM by Alykat19 https://ift.tt/38Y0FKs