My (45f) husband (48m) cheated 3 years ago......I STILL am pissed off and find movies difficult to watch.

We were going through a very difficult year and he chose to cheat on me. It absolutely tore me to pieces because (a) I was concerned about this friendship and he absolutely lied to me repeatedly about never meeting her in person, (b) she was younger and more beautiful and everything I'm not, (c) he never admitted it -- instead I found out by accident -- he never planned on telling me.

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For many reasons I decided to stay. One big factor was that I acknowledged we were really distant with each other that whole year. I figured we could do better, and we have.

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We did everything "right" including therapy.

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But now, 3 years on, all sorts of things can bring it all back. For example, movies can upset me a lot. Anything with an older man/younger woman. Anything involving infidelity. Anything focused too much on the "male gaze". Anything with too much sexual content.

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I start to feel like I'm going crazy. I don't know how to properly move past this. Is there hope here?

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tldr--husband cheated on me 3 years ago and apparently I'm not over it.

Submitted February 22, 2020 at 03:41PM by PretendPeach3 https://ift.tt/2HMo2L9