My bf would tell me I don’t have the ability to think or that I’m stupid because I don’t see things from someone else’s perspective. He’ll call me dumb or say I’m spewing shit when I firmly believe what I’m saying whether it’s right or wrong. He says he’s not trying to demean me or control me so it’s not verbal abusive. He’s trying to show me how I’m being bad. He said he tried to talk to me normally but since I refuse to accept what he’s saying and continue to be stubborn he has to resort to more aggressive words to prove the same point. He doesn’t think this is wrong. He says if I was more open minded he wouldn’t have to resort to other methods. He says he mocks me to show me how ridiculous I sound and it is not disrespectful.
I don’t have any argument against what he has to say except that it hurts my feelings and sense of self worth. But he says that is not a reason based on moral or ethics so he’s not going to change his behavior to accommodate to my insecurities and sensitivity.
Am I really wrong here? Am I so fragile that I can’t accept the truth cause it hurts? I can’t argue against him but I feel so impacted by the way he speaks to me mentally that I’m torn and unsure of myself and my capabilities. He says I have a huge ego and I compensate by spewing shit to try and defend my points just to be right. Can anyone help me and provide me any insight? I’m feeling really bad about myself and am really starting to believe that I am mentally disturbed.
TLDR; bf believes that name calling is okay because his intention is to show me how bad I am. I am struggling to accept this because i feel hurt. But does this mean I’m just sensitive and unable to be objective?
Submitted February 22, 2020 at 11:38AM by regularolive876 https://ift.tt/2vYL7Yk
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