A bit of background: We have been together 4 years, we have one daughter (13 months old) and are due another baby in the next few weeks. We are due to get married later this year.
Since we met he has been an avid user of his phone. He is a quiet man, he works hard, provides for us as I lost my job whilst on maternity with our daughter, and I guess doesn't get a lot of "down time". He has no hobbies and doesn't go out ever other than to work. But the problem is that when we are together he spends 90% of his time on the phone. I had a particularly traumatic birth last time and I have been trying to do lots of preparation for this birth by reading hypnobirthing books etc. I realised that he also needed to understand hypnobirthing and as he doesn't read much, I got an audio book to listen to. It is less than 6 hours long but in the last 10 weeks of pregnancy since I got the audiobook, he hasn't given me those 6 hours to listen to it. Whenever I do put it on he pulls out his phone and plays on it instead - mostly browsing Facebook or checking football results. It is not work related, and I have no fear that he is cheating on me.
I have mentioned this several times to him, and he puts the phone away for 5 minutes, then out it comes again. He really seems addicted to it. He often ignores our daughter while he is responsible for her as he is on his phone. I have said this to him, and again, the phone goes away for 5 mins while I'm watching and then it comes out again. And I genuinely feel like I come after it - I am not his priority at all.
Does anyone have any advice as to how I can get him to understand that this is destroying our relationship?
Thank you.
TL;DR - fiancé spends more time on his phone than with me and our daughter. How do I get him to understand that it's ruining our relationship?
Submitted April 01, 2019 at 04:16AM by dubnat https://ift.tt/2V9qPDp
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