my (f16) mother is a ‘recovering’ alcoholic and my dad isn’t doing anything to help her and potentially giving her alcohol anyways despite what doctors have said. i don’t know what to do and i’m losing hope.

a couple of weeks ago my mum went to rehab to tackle her alcohol addiction that she’s had for over 25 years. at first my dad was very supportive and refused to have alcohol at all in the house, always going to visit her and bring her things she wanted from home to get her through her time in there. but a couple weeks after she came out and it all seemed to be going downhill, the fridge is full with alcohol and there’s bottles of vodka hidden in the bottom of cupboards. not only that but i’m almost sure of it that my dad is making my mum drinks just so that he can have a drink too.

originally the plan was to put my mum on medication in which made her ill if she came into contact with alcohol, however, due to her already badly damaged liver she was warned off of taking it. i’m trying the best i can in preventing her from drinking, talking to her frequently about it and pouring drinks i find down the sink but despite all of this my dad refuses to help. yet, he gets mad when he finds her drunk. call me rude for jumping to conclusions but i think my dad is being really selfish, he won’t take into account his long term partners health just because he wants he have a drink. to make matters worse, my mothers family are very...irish, my grandma passed away when she was very young but it is clear that my grandad is also a heavy alcoholic, drinking everyday from very early in the morning. whenever she visits no one is stopping her from taking a can and drinking it because they simply don’t view it as a big enough issue to worry about due to the fact that they’ve been doing it for years.

my mum has a long history of depression and alcoholism and i just want what’s best for herself but i feel so utterly useless in the whole situation, my dads family are very supportive in her recovery and try their best to talk to my dad and my mum and help them out. but my dads stubbornness and selfishness is infuriating and it’s making everyone around me and myself included, miserable. my younger brother is 11 and i can feel how much it effects him, he’s starting secondary school next year and i don’t want him to have to go through that experience coupled with an alcoholic parent as well. at the start of the year when my mum said she was going to get help i was so happy but now we are back to square one and i’m losing faith. i’ve contemplated moving in with my grandparents but i don’t want to leave my brother on his own. it’s deteriorating everyone’s mental health including my own and i just want some advice on what i should do.

i apologise for any formatting issues i wrote this on phone and i also don’t have my capitals turned on so i’m really sorry if that bothers you :)

TL;DR! my mum recently got out of rehab and is back to drinking as usual, i suspect it’s due to my dad allowing her to drink as well as her own fathers dismissive view on the whole situation.

Submitted April 27, 2019 at 03:19PM by honestlyidrk http://bit.ly/2LietYS