My friend [22/F] is threatening to tell my [16/F] secrets to friends and family because I don't want to be in a relationship with her

First of. I'm posting this for my best friend so don't get conf used with my other posts

So, two months agol met L. She is a lesbian and fell in love with me instantly. At the time I was 15 and a little bit overwhelmed by it so I didn't directly told her that I'm not into girls (also I'm actually not quite sure). At first it looked like the understood and we became friends. I trusted her with a lot of my secret relatively early on because I looked up to her.

Atter some weeks she started to "emotionally blackmail" me. When I didn't answer text immediately she would say that I was a bad friend and she also demanden to call me even when I was with my family and she made sure that I would feel bad about not answering her calls. The couple times when we actually talked over the phone I was a little bit uncomfortable with her.

At that point most of my friends told me to stop talking to her because the was manipulativ. But I didn't listen to them because in my past I was the one a lot of people stopped talking to so I basicly can't block people on whatsapp.

Anyway she also started do demand to meet up with me for a couple of hours. I talked her down to just meet for one hour and the got physically very close to me including touching my breast and running her hand up and down my thighs. I was Very uncomfortable with this and also told her that I'm not really into it but she didn't really stop. (note that I didn't explicitly told her to stop).

She alsl made up storys about how the's drunk somewhere and I need to go get her while she knew that I wasnt able to do so. Everytime she did this I always felt guilty about not being able to help her and told her so.

Now she recently threatened me to call my mother and tell her that I have feelings for L. And also that she would tell my mother other secret about my life. My parents are very strict and controlling and I know I would be I deep trouble if they knew those things.

She also said she would lie to them about other things. other things the threatend to to where: tell my frien ds lies about my life, how I'm mentally ill. Tell everyone about my best friend who has borderline. She also said that the would try to ruin all my friendships. She demanded that I would call her otherwise she would do those things. I obliged and we talked.

I'm currently in a position where she has basicly complete power over me. My best friend asked me what would happen if she forced me to kiss L or other things and honestly I would probably do it.

I'm actually lost. I don't know what Im supposed to do. I feel sick thinking about it and I'm panicking. So please help me

Note from the guy writing this. As far as I'm concerned, there is a real chance of her forcing my friend into sexual acts. This is not some irrational fear. My friend doesn't want to tell her parents about it because she's afraid they would only care about the fact that she had contact to this person. Talking to someone at the school is also not really an option, her mother is a teacher and teachers talk, like a lot. She also doesn't trust the school therapist because in the past she told her mother things that where said in private.

We live in Germany if that helps

TL:DR: Met a lesbian two moth ago who fell in love with me. I didn't want a relationship and we became friends. This turned into "emotional blackmail" because she still has feelings for me and wants my attention. Now the is forcing me to call her and if I don't she will tell my parents about my secret. I'm also worried that the could demand more things like kissing or making out.

Submitted April 27, 2019 at 06:38PM by Its_u http://bit.ly/2J6GHn3