My question is: How do I get over my husband's neglectful actions?
So, I'm a good cook and food is very important to me. However, I no longer have the time to do it as often as I used to. My husband complains about that fact. I do very much enjoy the taste of my home-cooked meals: they feel comforting and happy.
I managed to find the time just before a trip out of town to make a pasta sauce. I used the best ingredients. It was the first time in at least a half year that I could do it, due to surgeries, hospitalizations, intense work, relocation. I worked 5, 6 hours all in all making it. I made enough for the next 6 months. It tasted great and offered (to me at least) a world of promises, so to speak.
My husband was to put it in the freezer and wash the dishes, while I packed my stuff before leaving.
Well, we came back from the trip and, surprise surprise, the pasta sauce wasn't stored away in the freezer. It's gone bad. There's no saving food that has spoiled. It needs tossing out.
I was looking forward to making a special meal out of it that night, with expensive stuffed pasta. I was looking forward to the nice meals we'd have in the coming months. I was happy that I had such good food to look forward to.
Realizing it's gone, I broke down crying. All the time and efforts I spent, wasted. And my meals, gone. And the thought of my husband badgering me about working faster because we were running late for the trip. And the thought of my husband badgering me because I don't make home-made food much anymore and he missed it. I just couldn't take it. So I broke down.
It's been hours, hours spent on the couch ugly crying and being upset and miserable. I don't know what to do. I just feel so angry and sad that my husband dropped the ball on something important. And that he's got a rather cavalier attitude about it, like it doesn't matter much and I am the one kicking up a fuss. I cry over the loss of course.
He tried to talk to me about it, saying he hadn't meant to neglect it, he was just in a hurry with the trip, he thought it was fine outside of the freezer, it's just a mistake (don't we all make mistakes?). It feels like he's just trying to propitiate me, to make me calm down already, to minimize what happened, but maybe that's just me. He says he's genuinely sorry. He asked what he could do to make up for it, but the fact is that there's no way he can return what he ruined, there's no way to make whole on that. He now says he'll still eat it, he argues it must still be good - see, no harm done. I don't know what to say to that, except that now I have spoiled food in my freezer.
TLDR husband (43M) ruined 6 months' worth of home-made pasta sauce due to his neglect. I don't get to cook much anymore and that pasta sauce was very meaningful to me. Am (36F) sad and mad, and not sure how to move forward with my husband.
Submitted October 05, 2021 at 08:29PM by MoiJaimeLesCrepes https://ift.tt/3mmczFW
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