My husband (37M) said he is not in love with me (31F) and wants to split up. Do I offer to rehome the dogs to try and save things?

Things have not been good between my husband (37M) and I (31F) for a while. He has really shut down emotionally and has stopped communicating. I asked him a few weeks back what I could do to make him happier in our relationship and his response was “get rid of the dogs”. Which in all honesty I scoffed at. I thought he was just trying to upset me. I asked him about it since and he said he was serious. We are putting a lot of resources into the dogs for training, someone to walk them while we are at work etc. but they still need a lot more work and he said yes he was serious, that not having them would relieve us of a ton of responsibility, help with finances and time.

However we still have a ton of other issues to work on too. I asked about going to marriage counseling and he said he didn’t think it would be worth it. He said he is just done. That we would be compromising too much of ourselves if we go through it, spending time and money we don’t have and that trying for the sake of trying is useless. He said he is just not in love with me anymore. And I am devastated. Beyond heartbroken. I have told him that I want to try. I love him and that I want to fix things not end it. And he won’t. Idk if he thinks I am just not serious about willing to try? I REALLY don’t want to rehome our dogs. Like really really don’t. But faced with losing my husband. I am honestly thinking about it since it is such a point of contention for him. But is that crazy? All I can think about is what is gonna happen if we work things out and have a baby?? And he told me he didn’t love me. Do I even keep trying after that?

TLDR: husband brought up a few time to get rid of dogs and won’t go to marriage counseling. Do I get rid of dogs to maybe save the marriage?

Submitted October 06, 2021 at 06:18AM by punk_rock_princess https://ift.tt/3asGK9f