So I (23 F) had a relationship of 3 yrs with this guy. He said he loved me a lot and that he wanted a future with me, we even had plans to move in together. Throughout our relationship I noticed that he put his parents opinions first and was always egoistic. For example he stayed away from me for months at a time in order to study for his exams. This went on for the last 3 years. He always puts himself first when it comes to school and his parents. He didn't even spend time with me when I was in the hospital and sick for 2 weeks because he was staying at his parents studying for an exam. We almost never went on vacations because he has to study and be with his parents. He always promised me that when he gets a job we'll move in together and won't need his parents money and therefore won't go to live with them anymore.
The last straw for me came when my grandma died. She died on Friday and he had this important exam on Sunday. This exam allows you to become a judge so it was rlly important. He's been studying for the last year non stop. However he couldn't find the time until Sunday (when the funeral took place) to come and see me. He was like a 20 min drive away. He didn't show up. I also signed up for this exam since it was my childhood dream to become a judge but sadly I couldn't show up because of several unfortunate events. So 3 days... Friday, Saturday and Sunday he was nowhere to be seen. 5 mins would have been enough.
I called him on Sunday after his exam and he told me he was with his parents getting take out and earlier he had just been out with his friend. He didn't ask me how I was doing, nothing. He told me how easy the exam was and that I missed my chance to become a judge. He had no plans to show up to the funeral, instead he was waiting for me to come to him.
I realized that he is never by my side and this was the final straw. I broke up with him, told him the reason and blocked him on every platform. However he sent me 2 messages before I blocked him saying that he is not to blame and that I wasn't even happy for his career. He then called me 2 times but I didn't answer.
This was 3 days ago, he hasn't tried to reach out since then. I think I chose the right thing to do.
TL; DR My boyfriend didn't attend my grandmother's funeral and wasn't present during those days. I broke off the relationship.
Submitted October 05, 2021 at 05:42AM by VanillaaCucumber https://ift.tt/3DfcnPG
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